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End Self-Sabotage

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Do you have a vision of your life but never seem to get there? Do you want a better job, better relationships, to feel better about yourself, or to start your own business but obstacles and events detour you from accomplishing your desires. It may be your self-sabotaging behaviors. You may think and believe one way consciously but have core beliefs that run unconsciously that sabotage your efforts and desires. Our unconscious beliefs are very powerful and often are the ones that are running the show.

So, what does that mean? It means that in order to change your life and stop your self-sabotaging behaviors you need to re-program your unconscious mind. Unconsciously, our resistance to change is great and even though we try new practices and routines we often go back to our old patterns.

Why is the unconscious so resistant to change? When we have core beliefs of shame, guilt, and self-loathing it often doesn’t matter what we do on the outside, if we don’t address the beliefs that we are not good enough or deserving of our desires. These core beliefs create a reality that supports our unworthiness and sense of undeserving so we end up not creating our desires. If this is true in order to make changes in your life, we need to change our core beliefs. Getting rid of the shame, guilt, and self-loathing is the desired goal. This is not an easy task and one that takes a commitment on your part.

Where to start:

First, become aware of your core beliefs and the self-sabotaging behaviors that are attached to them. Then, begin to think about yourself differently. You developed your core beliefs at a young age and now it is time to create new core beliefs that are in alignment with who you are. When you find yourself being critical, be willing to be different. Choose to be loving and realistic about yourself, not harsh and critical. You are programmed to tell yourself specific stories even though they are probably not true. Change your stories.

It’s time to start reprograming your unconscious core beliefs to create the life of your desires. This is hard work and usually less successful when done in isolation. Get the help and support you need to start living your life fully. Feel free to contact me with question or to set-up an appointment.    

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